Archive for December, 2009

Dating Rule #2 – How To Get Women To Do What You Want (Contrast)

Today i shall discuss a principle called the “contrast” principle. This principle is constantly underused because little people consciously know of it, and perhaps it’s better that way, given how strong it is. But nevertheless, if you wish to make a woman do what you want, this principle is an absolute necessity in your arsenal of techniques.

Understanding The Contrast Principle
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The contrast principle works like this. You make a succession of requests (usually two is enough), each request getting from “big” to “small”, and the “small” request being the request you wanted to attain all along. That way, due to the huge contrast in the requests, there stands a higher chance your initial intended request (the “small” one) would be attained in the end. Here’s an example of how i would use this to my advantage.
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Suppose i want to ask this girl out on a movie date. I’ll ask her “Hey! Are you up for a movie marathon?”. If she agrees then.. good for me -shrugs. But if she doesn’t, giving whatever reason she has (the exception being she’s genuinely busy), then i’d proceed to ask, “well then, perhaps only one movie then?”. This would hugely increase her chances of agreeing to my outing.
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This can work in a variety of ways, for example, if i wanted to ask her out to lunch, i could ask her, “Hey, are you free for the whole of tomorrow?” and if she says she isn’t, then i simply ask, “well, what about just lunch then?”. There are a whole host of varieties, you just have to brainstorm a little more to apply them correctly in your life. Do note that this contrast principle also involves a slight use of the reciprocation principle, which i will tell you about in the future.
Oh yeah, and i got to admit the movie ” New Moon” ain’t half as nice as the book, plus Jacob looks like he went on steroids too. -grumbles.
Anyway, if you have anything variation to the use of the contrast rule, i urge you to add it in through the comments section! I read through every comment and even a short anonymous comment would go a long way to helping improve this blog post. (:
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Yours sincerely,
Desmond L.

Dating Rule #1 : How To Be The Perfect Guy

So, how exactly do you be the perfect guy that every girl wants? It’s a question i believe most of you are wanting to ask. What exactly makes up this perfect lover? This object of every women’s desire? Well, given my fair amount of knowledge on the wants and don’t-wants of women, i can come up with a list i’m fairly certain would cover most women’s wants and don’t-wants. For today, i shall list a couple of the wants.

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Wants

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Good looks
this is fairly obvious i believe, don’t believe it when women say beauty is only skin deep as let’s face it, it’s not. There are only a handful of ugly hollywood stars out there, and that’s mainly because they need someone to act the villain. So if you haven’t brushed your hair or washed your face in ages, do so soon. Women like fresh faces, lose the beard or the moustache and if possible, get a neat hair cut.


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Good physique – don’t believe it when women say fat/obese/chubby guys are cute and huggable, what women really want to hug it those lean mean bodies. Look at the world out there, the football team guys gets the girls while the chess team players (no offense to anyone reading this) gets the.. plastic queen figurine. Start working out soon, i’ll perhaps write a chapter on the most effective workout i’ve seen and used to great effect in my future articles. The bigger your arms the better (of course not obscenely big) as more often than not, all women can see are your arms, unless they have x-ray vision then perhaps they can see what lies beneath your shirt. edit: recent entry on The Perfect Male Body, check it out here : Rule #10 : So What Exactly Is The Perfect Male Body.

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Charisma – not everybody is born with this, this can involve sweet talking, an aura of confidence or anything else that makes them want you more than your looks already do. There are a lot of books on being charismatic, on projecting confidence or talking your way into a women’s heart. Check out this article on How To Be Charismatic & Universally Attractive Qualities to build up on this point. (:

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Status – sure you all have heard of ‘survival of the fittest’, but in our current era, the tables have been turned slightly to being ‘survival of the smartest’. Women like men who hold high ranking status, don’t worry if you’re not en-route to being a doctor or a lawyer, the form of status can come in many ways, from being the soccer captain to the classroom prefect and to the group leader. There are many ways to attain good status positions wherever you are. The same way in the animal kingdom the female looks for the most dominant male to court, so does the women in our world look for the man sitting on the highest horse.

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Proper Dress Sense – here are a couple of tips for dressing up. Women don’t like baggy clothes, no matter how comfortable they are to you. It gives you a look of shabbiness. Women like the professional look, not so much as the power suit and tie all the time, but well fitted clothes preferably showing off some of your body cuttings (which is why you need to get fit soon if you’re not already). However, don’t overdo it (recall Barney Stinson from How I Met Your Mother who wears a suit even to sleep). The perfect example of dressing well would probably be Chuck Bass from Gossip Girl.

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Talk AND Listen – women hate awkward silences, which is why it’s an absolutely necessary skill to learn how to talk about anything and everything. However, remember not to talk too much and not listen at all, be sure to make the conversation a two way exchange, as much as women hate awkward silences and love to hear you talk, they also love to have their opinions heard or at least asked about.

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The Bad Boy Image – something about this image that makes women absolutely drool (once again, recall Chuck Bass from Gossip Girl). I believe inside every calm women’s exterior lies a wildness simply being supressed. However, due to conventionalism, they’re more inclined to choosing the stable good boy image. This, however, is something i believe you can take full advantage of, simply by having a bad boy image with a good boy status. This can be in the form of having a slightly wild or bad boy look but with a good boy’s reputation, this way, you satisfy both sides of a women’s desires, automatically putting you head and shoulders above the other guys who stick to only one image.


I shall round off the list here for today. Right now, I believe those are a few of the things that most women want to see in men. Unsure of how to achieve such qualities? Fear not, as i shall explain in my future articles addressing each and every one of these issues. Don’t forget to follow this blog so you won’t miss the next update! Have anything to add? Or perhaps you disagree with something said above? Then comment below and we’ll discuss! I read through every comment and even a short anonymous comment would go a long way to helping improve this blog post. (:
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Yours sincerely,
Desmond L.

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